The point of pointless things

While working those days on a research, exploring the cultural aspect of an old tradition, in an attempt to understand the hidden meaning of why the people actually do it, I came across to a significant number of answers, stating “just because it has been done that way for ages”. I wasn’t able to see the point, why we should do something, if we do not understand its meaning or it has dramatically changed over the years and taken a completely different direction.

Thus, digging in the garden of the unknown and trying to find the point of something which at first sight may look pointless, I attracted some other people who were also struggling to find the point of everything they were doing, and what was more, not being able to see the point of anything in their life. Losing the connection with the point of doing something does not necessarily mean that you are desperate, but it’s a clear sign that you may need to redefine your goals. 

Doing something, whatever it might be, serves a concrete need of ours and it may vary in meaning and value for the different people. It could be pretty well conscious, having a definite goal and a roadmap for its achievement, while, on the other hand, it could be also vague and even unconscious, waiting for the right moment of our mental and emotional maturity to pop up and make us realise what and why we have been actually doing.

Therefore, not being able to see the point of what the other people do does not mean and make it pointless. It simply means that we are not on one and the same page and the key understanding the point is to tune in that exact part of their emotional world which feeds the necessity of doing what they do. The closer we get to the roots, the clearer the picture will be and for sure that will help us understand their position and reasons for taking these or those actions.

When it comes to the point of losing or not being able to see the point of what we personally do at a certain stage in our life, does not mean as well that it has lost its meaning. As far as those little things that occupy our mundane reality make us feel content and give us a reason to keep going, then it’s just fine. Should you sense whatever discomfort and the question “why” starts popping up quite often, then simply tune to the reasons and above all the emotions which make you ask it.

You may be surprised to find that our expectations are the most common reason for losing the point of what we have taken up as a challenge. We usually expect a quick and specific payback, being convinced that our expectations match exactly our needs. Our needs, however, will attract the right things, which are necessary to comfort them, not paying much attention to our desires. That’s the moment when you may call that thing pointless, but it actually has its profound point.