It was not that long ago when I was struggling to accept my empathetic nature, blaming myself for not being able to be like the “normal” people. Being an Empath is not just being sympathetic, but being able to sense, experience and differentiate the feelings and emotions of others, and at the same time to be fully aware of what and how you feel. As far as you are positioned in a well-disposed environment and you are exuding and receiving positive vibes, life will work sufficiently for you. It really gets quite difficult, though when you find yourself among negative emitters, hidden behind their benevolent masks.
It’s just a human nature, one may say, we are not perfect and that’s why we are here to learn and to improve ourselves. Accepting our imperfection firstly should be the base if we have taken the decision to go further with our emotional education and development. Unfortunately, it takes time and efforts to enhance our emotional intelligence. It will not happen with just a touch of a magic rod, by reading a great number of good books, and even by attending a few seminars, led by the best lectures ever. It needs a constant observation and management of how we interact with others emotionally.
We are given the abilities to move freely throughout the whole emotional spectrum, although we may not be always aware of what exactly we are experiencing and exuding at a given moment. When it comes to the positive emotions, we are more likely to openly show them in public by all verbal and non-verbal means of communication. Whereas, the negative emotions are preferred to be deeply hidden behind a certain mask, to pretend that they are not ours, to label them as unconscious, and to simply refuse to cope with them. The harder we try to escape from them, the more they become evident.
If you accidentally have a portrait of yours somewhere in the attic, which has taken the imprints of all your negative emotions, then you will be able to see their impact and how they have damaged your soul. You can still keep the benevolent mask on your face, but that’s not going to help much. The negative emotions have the incredible gift to be projected everywhere around us, in a great variety of forms and shapes, irrespectively of our efforts to neglect them. That’s how, we will often encounter people and situations of the same type, causing us the same negative emotional effect.
Instead of asking yourself why it happened to me again, you’d better ask yourself why you attracted them again. It’s completely the same if you find yourself blaming or judging other people for their traits or how they have been acting or reacting in a given situation. Is it really other peoples’ fault or is it something that you personally can’t cope with? You can take these encounters as signs of what you need to ponder and correct within yourself. They are nothing but a mere reflection of what is going on deep inside of you. Be brave to face this challenge and decorate your inner portrait with the positive emotional spectrum of colours.
Then again, it may take some time, but you will gradually be able to observe how you are changing and the whole environment around you as well. If you have been often expressing your resentment of other people, then you will be more likely to accept them the way that they are, and to know clearly what you feel in a given situation. The glass will be always half full, than half empty. This, of course, doesn’t mean that you are no longer going to experience whatever negative emotions. It means that you will be able to identify the reason of what has made you feel like that and to openly state it.
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