Fear of giving

Exploring signs of life could be a real fascinating activity as far as those signs bring more and more meaning and value to what we would like to learn to take us further on the path of knowledge. Their dual nature, however, comes to teach us as well that what we see might not be at all what we would like to see, and that’s just their euphemistic way to soften the harshness of a given life experience. It’s always a mystery what could be hidden behind a certain message and reading it correctly is what will take us forward, instead of reading it the way that we like.

Having been poured recently with a huge number of “step out of your comfort zone” invitations, coming from all sorts of sources and directions, made me contemplate a bit on how comfortable actually the comfort zone is. Do we really feel comfortable there or we simply prefer to keep alive the illusion that we are safe at that very moment? Feeling comfortable is a condition of being well emotionally balanced and enjoying the abundance of all resources to have made us feel like that. This means we have quite a lot right at that moment.

On the contrary, the message says, what we are going to get will happen out of that zone and to make it even more lucrative it’s even called - magic. Staying in the comfort zone has never been meant for getting or aimlessly draining the resources which give the sense of security in our lives. That’s the right time for giving or learning how to give more. Thus, enjoying the comfort of the comfort zone, we are supposed to take all necessary actions to tackle our fears and above all the fear of giving, as only then we are safe enough to afford it.

To step out of our comfort zone is actually an invitation to start giving – to give something to ourselves or to the others and the spectrum is always wide enough to choose what. It’s not like getting rid of what we don’t need anymore or it’s not a big deal to do. Giving and overcoming the fear of giving is an action which will directly affect some or all of the resources which keep our emotional balance. That’s a challenge, but a challenge with a promise for a miracle. As for the miracle – that’s simply the increase of what we have already had as a resource.

Feeling uncomfortable, however, is not a sign that we have consciously stepped out of our comfort zone. It’s merely a sign that we have already run out of some or all of those resources which have kept our emotional balance. Thus, finding ourselves into the discomfort zone will bring no miracles and what’s more, we will be put in the position of giving twice more to restore the lost resources and get back to that uncomfortable comfort zone. That’s a consequence of not taking actions while peacefully occupying that same zone, but still a good learning activity as well.