Ohm’s law or how love works

For years, we have been taught that love is chemistry. Let’s agree to disagree that love, both metaphorically and literary has nothing to do with chemistry, and it is pure physics. It might be strange, but some centuries ago when the German physicist Georg Ohm invented the electricity law, he gave the perfect formula of love to the world. Apart from moving almost everything that we use in our mundane reality, it also moves us to look for and connect with that special person with whom eventually we will build a relationship, filled with love and understanding.

First of all, we need two points with a potential difference between them – a plus and a minus, or a woman and a man. It could be a double plus or a double minus couple, but there must be a difference between their potentials. Each point is “electrically charged” or these are all feelings, emotions, and intelligence which form our potential. The higher the difference between the potential in the points, the higher the voltage will be, and that's not healthy for any relationship.

In order to make the “current” run between these two points, there must be obligatory resistance, which actually links them. The resistance is everything different and unknown that we see and find at our partner, and at the same time, it’s everything that makes the relationship possible. Like it or not, but the resistance is constant and it shouldn’t be changed. You may try to adjust your feelings and emotions, and the way you interpret them, to each other, but don’t try to turn the other one into a spitting image of yours.

Let’s finally come to the point of love or finding of that perfect another one, who will brighten your life and will fill it with everlasting happiness. It may look hardly possible, but in fact, it’s up to us to build that relationship. How about to link these two points (these two people) with an electric bulb between them and for the given example it will be called the love bulb. Provided that no one in this couple tries to change the constant resistance (tries to change the other one), and each of them maintains their own potential (+/- 5V), which means taking care of their feelings, emotions and intellectual development, then the love bulb will shine brightly all the way down in their life. It looks like the ideal scenario.  However, the ideal scenario requires two people, emotionally and intellectually mature enough, to adjust themselves to any potential change of their partner. And no, that’s not your soul mate – that’s your life partner - a partner who must be different in order to keep the love bulb shining brightly.

There are two other possible scenarios where love has been totally neglected or it has very little to do with love. In these cases, the love bulb will either burst into pieces or it will never shine at all. The “high voltage” case is quite common and it is caused when one of the partners has dramatically decreased or increased their potential to a level which is too hard for the other one to accept or adjust – said, in other words, the feelings and the interest in that relationship are no longer the same. And if the love bulb never shines, do not blame the bulb - your own potentials are not strong enough to overcome the too strong resistance between both of you.

And finally, the soul mates! Some people spend their whole life, looking for that other one who will be completely like them. Think twice before you ask to meet that person because you may really meet them. Can you imagine what will happen, if you directly connect the plus and the minus without any resistance in between? I call this moment the BIG BADA BOOM! There will be no such thing as happily ever after, because it has never been meant to be so, and because that’s the way the Ohm’s law is. Within the moment of the big explosion, you will experience something very strong. It could be very pleasant or not at all, but there’s just one thing for sure – this meeting will give you a meaningful new direction in life.